Disclaimer: If you are in a world where everything is good and happy and prosperous and whatever you know, think, feel and believe has to be true, this book ain’t for you.
Beware: “The Subtle art of not giving a F@ck” uses the word F@cK in almost every other sentence and so does this blog hence, read at your own risk!!
SoTrue: “In my life, I have given a fuck about many people and many things. I have also not given a fuck about many people and many things. And like the road not taken, it was the fucks not given that made all the difference.”
Let’s Begin! The only reason I was curious to read this book was its fucking title. It is so damn eye catchy, kudos to the author for that! Now while the book is titled the subtle art of not giving a fuck, let me be a bit straightforward and tell you that the art is not so subtle my dear friend! It is very very difficult to get out of our boxed mentalities and truly not give a fuck about anything.
Humans are trained by the society from birth to give two fucks about a hell lot of things. To name a few:
- You have a newborn who is not speaking as fluently as other kids his age, you gotta give a fuck and figure out what’s wrong.
- Your kid is not doing better at sports or studies in school, you give a fuck.
- Mr. Sharma got a promotion and bought a bigger car than yours, two fucks on that.
- Your shitty, creepy, idiotic boyfriend broke up with you, again, multiple fucks right there.
- Your manager tells you, you are doing pretty good but sorry we can’t give you a hike this time, another one. (And I won’t even get started on stupid people who start random office gossips)
- You are about to turn 30 and still not getting married, OMG a 100 relatives who haven’t even talked to you in ages would give a fuck about that.
- You are married but not keen on having kids anytime soon, this one gets fucks from your relatives as well as your inlaws….
And this is not it, the human mind is conditioned in a way that anything and everything that is not aligned with their measures of correctness has to be given a fuck about. And this is to the extreme that we give fucks even about hypothetical situations (Seriously! I have personally been a victim of the hypotheticals). So it is not really subtle and easy to change this mind conditioning and not give a fuck about what people think or what’s happening around. Hell, I personally know multiple people whom I don’t wanna give a fuck about but they are always so in my face that I just can’t avoid them and say NO.
So although this book’s title might sound offensive or the book might get boring at some parts, I suggest everyone read it cause we all need to know that we don’t have to have an opinion on everything, we don’t have to give a fuck about everything and life will still be beautiful and in fact better than before. On that note let me wind this up with a few quotes from the book that I really really liked. Enjoy!
“The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain.”
“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”
“Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual. We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.”
“Travel is a fantastic self-development tool, because it extricates you from the values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values and still function and not hate themselves.”
“Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.”
“Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the same thing.”
“Don’t just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.”
“Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s also the cause of it.”
“Parkinson’s Law: Work expands so as to fill up the time available for its completion.”
“Murphy’s Law: Whatever can go wrong will go wrong.”
“Mason’s Law of Avoidance: The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.”
“Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.”
“Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.”