Happy Birthday to Me!! Another mile added to the hopefully long journey of life.
I was thinking for last few days what would I write about on my birthday and one fine day before I dozed off I realized, what better to write than the few learnings that my experiences have taught me (or the things I wish I knew about myself sooner). I have met all kinds of people in life and have had some really bad and some really amazing experiences as well. So here I am today, sharing some of those with you all, cause I wish someone would had shared this with me in my teens.
Boyfriends will come and go, some might be really bad investment of your time, heart and energy, others might give you great strength & inspiration while they last. But don’t ever cry or get emotionally and mentally drained cause of BF issues. I wish that everyone finds their dream partner in one go, but even if you don’t, relax! Life isn’t about finding the right guy, life is finding yourself while finding the right guy and having different experiences every time. I learned to trust my instincts more and more, be myself a lot more and in the process, I have also learned to love myself and enjoy my own company all the more.
Having a good set of friends is the key they say, but true friends are the ones that really stand the test of time with you and do not break off at the slightest of misunderstandings. There are the “YES” friends, who will love you till you act, work, sit, party and travel to their liking and get all squirmish when you would want to do something of your choice. But a real friend and also a genuine person is one who understands that two people can’t always want to do the same thing, that everyone has the right to choose for themselves what they want to do every minute of every day, that friendship is way beyond shopping together and partying together. So don’t cry over the ones you lose, they don’t deserve it. Party with the ones you have 🙂 .
I learned to say “NO” pretty late in my life. But ever since I have, I have found happiness and found myself. Saying “Yes” to everyone around all the time might make you popular and a great friend to some but make sure that it doesn’t come at the cost of your own well being and development. Say no if you don’t wanna party, say no if you don’t want to go on that trip, say no if you don’t want to have that drink and don’t bother explaining yourself. Just enjoy what you want to do, when you want to do and have fun with life. This is your one chance at life, and there aren’t going to be any retakes. So, if you want to get that pet that would bring you joy, do it. If you want to stay alone and live by yourself, do it. Do not wait for approvals from your friends and family, cause even though they know you well, they don’t know you as well as you know yourself!
“You should decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly, smilingly, unapologetically – to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside.”
Invest your time wisely cause once lost, there is no turning back. I wish I had started my blog or vlog or explored painting or dancing about 7-8 years back, but I was either partying or playing poker all night or crying in my bed or doing whatever everyone around me asked me to do (cause friends). I lived my days waiting for the weekend to party and splurging all my money on shopping. I wish I had spent all those years of my life judiciously, focusing on the right things and surrounding myself with the right people. People who have a positive attitude towards life, people who would have motivated me to do the right things and form the right habits and just live the right life. It is very important that you learn to appreciate your time and your worth, it’s only then that others will start appreciating it too.
And while I am on positivity, let me tell you it is very underrated. Positive thoughts, positive people, positive environment is a choice that we make every moment. I had a friend who otherwise seemed all happy and jovial but once in any serious discussion, she got all sarcastic and nasty and negative. Keep yourself away from such people who are always nagging, bitter, criticizing, judgemental, who no matter what always focus on the negatives. For you to have your peace of mind and use your energies for the right stuff, either keep away from such people and if you can’t, definitely don’t pay any heed to their comments. Find people with substance and happy, positive attitude and you will enjoy every moment spent with them. Stay positive, Stay pretty! 😉
I don’t remember where I read this statement but it stuck with me, “Life teaches everyone what they need to learn in its own ways. Some pay attention and accept the hardships and learnings and some just pass the years by ignorant of the magic that life is.”Here is to many more birthdays, loving life, living life, finding myself and my purpose and being really, truly happy!